Divorce Planning & Preparation
First, it is important to determine whether the marriage is truly over. With discernment coaching, you will be confident in your decision to either 1) try couples counseling and attempt reconciliation or 2) move towards divorce. I have worked with clients who realized it may be possible to work out their issues through counseling, therefore avoiding divorce altogether.
Second, it is important to prepare and gather financial documents. Understanding the marital assets and income that have been acquired during the marriage is important. If at all possible, it is helpful to have the information readily available before the divorce process begins.As you begin the Collaborative Divorce Process, the financial pieces will come together.
Reconciliation & Discernment
Couples Counseling – If you haven’t been to couples counseling or therapy, but would like to try, Audra can refer you to a marriage-friendly therapist.
Reconciliation – It is entirely possible for couples to either reconcile or attempt reconciliation once the collaborative divorce process begins. There have been several cases where the couple wanted to put the divorce on hold in an effort to reconcile. For those who don’t reconcile, they at least know they tried everything to save their marriage.
Discernment Counseling – If one spouse (or both) is on the fence about moving forward with divorce or working on the marriage, discernment counseling should be discussed. Audra can refer couples to a discernment counselor/coach, who helps assess the potential of marriage restoration or whether it is better to continue toward divorce.
In mediation, spouses meet with a neutral third party, the mediator, to help facilitate an agreement about family law issues. It is the mediator’s job to keep the couple on task and help maintain open communication between the parties, so they can brainstorm workable solutions. A mediator does not give legal advice.
To cater to everyone’s interests during mediation, a financial neutral and child specialist can be called in to help with cash flow and parenting plans. Families can pursue counseling as necessary to help with additional needs throughout the transition.
Divorce & Finances
3 Property Division
In the Collaborative Process, you can work with a neutral financial party to help you generate different options for your unique situation. Rather than paying two attorneys to create separate (and competing) financial plans, one neutral financial professional can help you draft a balance sheet and create cash flow scenarios that can provide tax savings and work for the whole family.
The neutral party can also help you address child support and spousal maintenance, and help you create a solution tailored to your unique circumstances.
Children & Divorce
With the expert help of a divorce coach and child specialist, you can continue to be the good parent you are to your kids. During the process, you can determine your individual needs, how you will move forward as co-parents, and focus on the needs of your children.
In the Collaborative Divorce Process, the parents can bring in a neutral child specialist — a trained mental health professional — to help create a plan that really considers the children and the family’s unique lifestyle and needs. The result is whatever is truly best for the children and their parents, instead of a court’s perception of what could be best.